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Thursday, November 25, 2010

Is Love a Choice ?

Is Love a Choice?, whatever we think about is still just a decision. You decide to love when you meet a person who you interact with like you have known them all of your life. You can decide to love or you can not to love because love is a choice. You choose to love and the other person do not have to necessarily have to return that love. That is why it is so important to choose to love instead of using hocus pocus and being so much in love that you are in love with the emotion and not the person.
When you choose to love, you are using the emotion of compatibility with another person who you have decided have everything you want in a person and can bring everything that you want in a relationship. The choice is yours to be the best you can be and make the choice to present your best. You should present your best because you want to have a reciprocal relationship where he will choose to love you also. He must choose to love you to make the relationship to work and to be trustworthy in his selection of you as his lover and you to him.
Sounds simple enough. You choose to love him and he chooses to love you. But more often than not one of your will love the other more and that is alright because there is no measurement to make the balance of emotions equal. The woman will most likely love more because it is her nature to belong to someone and to be a part of a relationship. The woman will work harder to keep the relationship together because she knows that love is a choice to have a strong emotion for another and men are just not geared to having a relationship.
However, once a man find "the one" and chooses to love her, he will undoubtedly not let go of the relationship by choosing to act in a behavior that would cause his lover to leave him for another. Love is a choice and because of that, you have the freedom to fall out of love as well. But who would want to fall out of happiness if they chose after weighing the alternatives that are out there and have settled on the one person in their life who have everything that they have longed for up until this time. Happiness is enjoyed when both people in the relationship chooses to love each other and to forsake all others who are out there trying to make a good thing to go bad. If the two are bonded in this choice to love with strong emotions and trust, the relationship will endure all of the distractions.
So, love is a choice...

Monday, August 9, 2010

The Gift of Love

The Gift of Love
Love is always bestowed as a gift--freely, willingly, and without expectation...
We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
--Leo Buscaglia
May no gift be too small to give, nor too simple to receive,
which is wrapped in thoughtfulness and tied with love.
--L.O. Baird
When it comes to giving love, the opportunities are unlimited,
and we are all gifted.
--Leo Buscaglia
The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.
--Brian Tracy
Love is a gift. You can't buy it, you can't find it, someone has to give it to you. Learn to be receptive of that gift.
Life is the first gift, love is the second,
and understanding the third.
--Marge Piercy
Love is, above all, the gift of oneself.
--Jean Anouilh
Love is giving the gift of oneself.
--Author Unknown
Life, the gift of nature
Love, the gift of life
A Kiss, the gift of Love
--Author Unknown

There is seemingly so little love shared in this world, it is not surprising that we ask, "Where have all the lovers gone?" Since love is the most vital energy for good that is within our power to utilize, it is puzzling why we so seldom do so. Love is just a useless, abstract idea until we put it into action...Unless we are always actively living in love, we are not utilizing the greatest gift we have been given and which we, in turn, have to offer.
--Leo Buscaglia
The only gift is a portion of thyself.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it
and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep
watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it.
--John Lennon
The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman's heart.
--Josiah G. Holland
A friend is a gift you give yourself.
--Robert Louis Stevenson
Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love,
a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.
--Mother Teresa
A gift consists not in what is done or given,
but in the intention of the giver or doer.
--Lucius Annaeus Seneca
Love's greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred.
--Barbara de Angelis
The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift
of unconditional love and acceptance.
--Brian Tracy
He who loves with purity considers not the gift of the lover,
but the love of the giver.
--Thomas Kempis

Love is...

Love is...
Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.
--Alexander Smith
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favourite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who love.
--Author Unknown
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
--1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is merely madness...
--William Shakespeare
True love is like a ghost;
everyone talks of it, few have seen it.
--La Rochefoucauld
Love is like a Rhino, short-sighted,
but always willing to find a way.
--Author Unknown
If I know what love is, it is because of you.
--Herman Hesse
Love is energy of life.
--Robert Browning
Love is an ocean of emotions, entirely surrounded by expenses.
--Thomas Dewar
Love is like a flower: Once you pick it, it slowly dies
--Author Unknown
Love is the passionate and abiding desire on the part of two or more people to produce together conditions under which each can be and spontaneously express, his real self; to produce together an intellectual soil and an emotional climate in which each can flourish, far superior to what either could achieve alone.
--Author Unknown
Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion that each include the other, each is enriched by the other.
--Felix Adler
True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart.
--Honore de Balzac
Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
--Erich Fromm
Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed: our love to others, and others' love to us.
--Thomas Trahern
Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself.
--Leo Buscaglia
Love is a fabric which never fades, no matter how often it is washed in the water of adversity and grief.
--Author Unknown
Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.
--Louise Hay
Love is much like a wild rose, beautiful and calm, but willing to draw blood in its defense.
--Mark A. Overby
Love is the seed of all hope. It is the enticement to trust, to risk, to try, to go on.
--Gloria Gaither
Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within the reach of every hand.
--Mother Theresa

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Love Letters

LOVE... It can take place just with an exchange of glance or it might happen when two people have long been in each others company and one day find out that they are in love. The most important part of love is to express it in a nice way. Although the best way to express your love is by proclaiming it to the loved one but the need of expressing it and true lovers never get tired of expressing their love.

One of the best ways to express your love is by writing love letters. Although the contemporary world has devised several ways for conveying love but the charm of love letters never got diminished by a bit even as they are the instruments that continued putting words to your feelings for eternity.
For time immortal, as men and women continued falling in love, the art of writing love letters also went on its course making the million and trillions of expressions vibrant with truth and ecstasy.
here can be various occasions, on which love letters can be written, it can be just expressing your love or rendering a sweet note from the core of your heart, it can also be evincing the thought of the moment when you miss your sweetheart. So, there are innumerable instances that call for some cute love letters.

There are examples of scores of great love letters written by eminent personalities and they stand as great reference for people of all time to convey their exclusive feelings of love. Some of the significant examples of such great love letters can be the Beethoven love letters or the bunch of letters by Keats or Shelly. If some of the individuals, who are freshly under the spell of love find it difficult to jot down their feelings than they can very well refer to these prized love letters. They can also take help of a love letter book that will assist them with the basics of writing a love letter.
So people... write love letters (they can be soooo romantic )

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Love Messages

Love look for proclamations and the more you bound it within yourself, leave it unuttered, the more you tend to be a loser. If your love is not attributed with proper expressions then it will never render the cry of your soul. There are various ways; people can put forward their feelings to their loved ones. Some writes love letters decked with chosen words depicting their heart out, some pen exclusive love poems for conquering the heart of the sweetheart, there are many more, who are not so explicit with their creative genius seek help of the popular methods, such as, referring to the love letters of the great personalities, searching love song lyrics, that truly express their mind and many others.

In the jet age of today, there is another very effective means to express your love. It is by sending love messages. Mobile phone and computers being so handy nowadays sending text messages is not at all a problem. Quick messaging system has made these sms messages an easy way to convey the various love messages. The sms love is Gen X method to evince the inner thought of your heart.

Especially the youngsters use these love text messages and they enjoy this activity of keying in the text love messages to a great extent. It is also not a very difficult to device these love you messages as they don�t require much creativity. One can very well create a loving blend by using different love quote messages. Here are some examples of love messages, which can be very well used as love sms messages.

Love Quote Messages
• Love is like war... Easy to start... Difficult to end.
• Love is when you don't want to go to sleep because reality is better than a dream.
• It's hard to find someone whom you truly love, much less to find someone who loves you as much.
• Love is like a butterfly. It goes where it pleases and it pleases where it goes.
• Love can touch you just one time but it can last for a life time.
• Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship.
• It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.
• Love is two hearts beating as one.
• Love doesn't make the world go round; it just makes the ride worthwhile.

Love SMS:
• You brighten my day with the sound of your voice, you bring so much laughter and love, you are everything to me and I was so blessed when god sent you here for me.
• I looked at a flower and thought it was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen till I met you.
• I will love you until my heart stops beating. You are always in my heart, here and everywhere, There is no one in the whole world that makes me feel this way.
• Love is like a butterfly. It goes where it pleases and it pleases where it goes.
• I can't live without you. I love u.
• Smile is a language of love,smile is a source to win heart,smile is a name of lovely mood,
• smile create greatness in personalityso keep smiling
• U may be out of my sight, but not out of my heart. U may be out of my reach, but not out of my mind. I may mean nothing to u, but u'll always be special to me.
• U may be out of my sight, but not out of my heart. U may be out of my reach, but not out of my mind. I may mean nothing to u, but u'll always be special to me.
• Wish I was your blanket, I wish I was your bed, I wish I was your pillow underneath your head, I wanna be around u, I wanna hold u tight, & b the lucky person who kisses u good night.
Look more of such simple but enchanting love messages and build a collection for yourself. You can also create your own unique messages and they will be just the best.

Saturday, July 3, 2010

Signs a Man Is in Love

I read this article and i want to shear it with u.
By: Joe Rector
Few things affect a man more than falling in love. People often say they can see the signs a man is in love--or the symptoms of his affliction. What's most evident is the complete change that comes over the male as his heart is given to the woman he adores.
A man in love becomes a softer version of his former self. Once rough around the edges, this man discovers his sensitive side. He now enjoys laughing children, beautiful sunsets and "chick flicks." He can be seen wiping a tear from the corner of his eye as he watches those films about a couple in love and their rollercoaster ride toward eternal bliss. He loses his penchant for arguing and fighting. In fact, the love-struck man begins to care what others think about him and his actions because he wants to make the best impression upon his newly found love. His goal is to be pleasing to her.
Another sign that a man has fallen in love concerns his friends. At one time, "his boys" sat at the center of his universe. Times spent with them dictated his daily schedule. Once this man is overpowered by love's influences, he turns his back on those men with whom he's made so many memories, most of which are disgusting to his lady. Weekly get-togethers with the guys are replaced with staying home, cuddling on the couch, or, God forbid, shopping with his girlfriend. The longer the relationship lasts, he finds less time to spend with his friends in any setting.
Nothing more clearly points to a man's falling in love than the change in his decision-making. At one time, this "manly man" could take a trip to the mall, enter a store, find an item, and return home in a matter of minutes. After he has fallen for a woman, the guy can't go anywhere without her. He looks to her for help in choosing the right item to buy. Before meeting this woman, the man could get dressed for an event in about five minutes. Now that he's in love, the guy can't select an outfit without her help. A man in love suffers from a loss of thinking ability or confidence to the point that he turns over decisions to his soul mate.
In general, for men, falling in love is characterized by signs of their total change in every area of life.

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Love is magic

Many people believe that love is a divine magical power that connects two loving hearts. For ages people have been thinking of what love is, writing books and song about love, in the recent time – shooting movies all on the same topic. Christians would say that God teaches us to love each other, the most skeptical materialists would blame it all on the chemical processes and hormones, romantic people would stand for the theory that each of us has his or her half on the Earth. Whatever love really is – the humanity definitely loves it.

Love is opposite to selfishness, because it’s always heading to some other person but you. It’s the highest point of human’s relations development. One voluntary gives up a great part of his/her own freedom. Love is giving by it’s nature. Person feels satisfaction and happiness not from receiving but from and seeing one happy. Two individuals completing one another form some spiritual union in which one is happy because the other’s is happy and one knows that he or she loves because he or she knows he/she would do anything it takes to make the other.

Love has it’s magical power to overcome all troubles, heal illnesses, create wonders. In critical life situations it gives people the strength to survive, to hold on however tough the living gets. And it all comes from the knowledge that you’re not alone in this world.

But everyone should mind that love arises not between angels but between people with all their little sins and flows. So the mistakes, problems and conflicts in love are in fact normal, they all come from our human’s nature. But the clear feeling of love is worth all the troubles one has to walk through to gain it. As we know Rome wasn’t built in a day, the same thing with love. There’s not any perfect art of loving. It’s always a road laid with compromises, everyday battle – not with the one you love, but with yourself. That’s how love makes us better. For everyone this way is personal. You can never predict how the relationships will develop but it’s in your ability to make it better.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Types of Lovers: Which One Are You?

From a romantic to a player, experts say there are six different ways you can be "in love."
Love can look very different. Some couples fawn over each other in a lovey-dovey way with sparks and passion flying, while others might be called stodgy, content with sitting side-by-side in an easy companionship. In addition, love styles can change as a relationship matures over the years. Knowing your love style can help you evaluate your relationship, allowing you to have more realistic expectations about how love occurs and how it evolves over the years.
What kind of lover are you?, with input from Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle, describes the six types of lovers:

The Romantic
Swept away by your lover's good looks and physical attractiveness, you just love being in love. The problem? When his hairline recedes or her waistline expands, you are disappointed. Remember that romance doesn't have to fade as the relationship ages.

The List-Maker
You have very high standards--so high that you may put too much pressure on your partner to live up to them. It's time to let go of that list or you could be living a very lonely life. Remember, what's most important is companionship, love and forgiveness--not the size of a bank account, an Ivy League education, job title, the square footage of a house or anything else that impresses others.

The Obsessive
You want to spend every minute with your partner. Even though you've been together for years, you still worry about the relationship. Watch out! Your insecurities are making you overbearing. You may need professional help putting your relationship into a realistic perspective.

The Giver
You are so selfless and love your partner so much that you often give more than you receive. While that's laudable, you need to make sure you look after your own needs, too. Do make sure you develop a life outside your marriage with your own friendships and interests.

The Player
It's all about the chase for you. Long-term relationships bore you and when you're in one too long, your eye may roam. If you're married, make sure you avoid situations that could lead to an affair. Take temptation out of your life and instead find excitement inside your marriage.

The Pal
First, you were friends. Then one day you realized, "I'm in love!" Your relationship may be quiet, but it's strong. Just make sure things don't get too platonic. Plan a romantic evening for two and rev up the sex and excitement.

Ѓаволот е во деталите

Според една машка перспектива постои поговорка “ѓаволот е во деталите”. Кога мажот би ги приметувал малите работи кај жената, тоа би биле следниве 4 работи, според една статија на Rich Santos. Не заборавајте дека ова, сепак, е само едно машко гледиште на работите.

1.РАЦЕ - “Ги приметувам рацете на девојката доста прецизно. Убави раце може да претставуваат финеса и моќност во исто време. Маникирот и тенот. Си замислувам како е да ги држам. Не сум некој тип кој `се држи за раце`, но убави раце може да ме претворат во тоа. Набљудувам дури и како девојката ги зема, ги прифаќа работите. Дефинитивно постојат многу различни објекти и облици кои изгледаат запрепрастено убаво во нивните раце, така на пример чаша за вино може да се гледа како една игра која тече низ нејзините прсти, мали зглобови… Чашата за вино има деликатни облини кои играат меѓу прстите на нејзините раце“.

2.КОСА -Косата може да прави едноставни акции а кои може да пробудат силни емоции. “Еден ден одејќи на работа налетав на една моја пријателка. Една работа е за сигурно: оваа девојка навистина знае како да ја чува и одржува нејзината коса. Ние само зборувавме и одевме кон нашите работни места, кога силен ветар задува низ улицата и едноставно пролета преку нејзината коса. Неопишаното движење низ нејзината коса беше прекрасно. Сето ова го немав приметено се до тој ден, но сето тоа движење на ветерот низ прамените, и сеќавањето на него ми го направи остатокот од денот поубав. Па така, ако косата е `голема работа`, одредени случајни моменти може да направат огромни работи”.

3.ПОСТАВУВАЊЕТО КОН ДРУГИТЕ, ОДНЕСУВАЊЕТО -“Кога излегувам навечер со девојка, гледам како таа се однесува кон келнерите или хостесите. Дали кажува `благодарам` и дали генерално се однесува пристојно и учтиво. Некогаш се фаќам себеси како јас премногу се поставувам така, секогаш се трудам да кажам фала или да бидам учтив. Она што сакам да го доловам дека тоа што ја прави нејзе перфектна, е повеќе од тоа како се однесува само кон мене. Личност со убава персоналност се однесува пристојно кон сите, не само кон одредени личности. Забавно е да се биде излезен со девојка, и да гледаш како ги прави весели другите луѓе околу вас. Тоа ме прави да се чувтсвувам горд и среќен што јас сум со неа. Речеси и самото тоа што сум излезен со прекрасна девојка ми го разубавува денот, а ако оваа девојка дури умее да ги разубавува деновте и на другите, тогаш сум дури и посреќен”.

4.ШТО ТАА ПРИМЕТУВА - “Забавно е да среќавате различни луѓе, затоа што секој од нив си носи сопствена перспектива. Кои се малите работи што ги преметува таа или што на неа и привлекува внимание? Дали обрнува внимание на работите што се одвиваат во позадина или не? Дали кога сме излезени го приметува заљубениот пар седнат до нас? Секако дека имате многу заеднички особини и делите исти мислења, но понекогаш можете многу да научите за одредена личност само според деталите кои тие ги приметуваат во животот и моментите. Забавна авантура е да се биде надвор со некој кој може да ве насмее, некој кој може да ги забележува и ситните работи, некој кој секогаш може да извади ново гледиште на различни ситуаации”.

“Еднаш кога приметв дека приметувам мали работи, дојдов до заклучок дека малите едноставни моменти се дел од целосната убавина. Убавината може да се дефинира многу почесто како колекција од моменти, или сеќавања, отколку да се дефинира како нечиј изглед. Уживањето во глетка на девојка од другиот крај на просторијата, како ја држи чашата со вино во нејзините раце, како таа ја изведува преставата заедно со нејзините прсти, и како создава убав момент во друштвото во кое се наоѓа со нејзините мисли идеи и зборови, или момент во утрото кога на патот кон работа ќе пролетате кон нејзината коса .. како и многу други ситни работи се моменти кои никогаш не треба да се заборават...Затоа девојки, уживајте и не се залажувајте дека на машките најбитен им е надворешниот изглед. Можеби кај нас визуелноста е доста развиена но тоа не значи дека не сме способни да гледаме и подалеку од она што ни е прeд очи.

Monday, June 21, 2010

Love is magic and also work...

Love, romance and passion in a relationship is also magic and work, especially in long relationships that they need to be maintained.

But to keep that magic it is necessary for the partners mutually to maintain and to invest in it.

For satisfaction in the relationship, it is important the readiness to invest energy. Under investment in the love I do not think that any of the partners, at any time, must be attractive, but that they are ready to see her/him in different light, be next to and to take action when it is needed . Bought partners have to have interest for each other and want to be together, even when they are silent to feel comfortable.

Love should not be hard, but it is not easy. However it is worth to love anyway ...

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Amazing True Love Story

The brand new pastor and his wife, newly assigned to their first ministry, to reopen a church, arrived in early October excited about their opportunities. When they saw their church, it was very run down and needed much work.

They set a goal to have everything done in time to have their first service on Christmas Eve. They worked hard, repairing pews, plastering walls, painting, etc. and on Dec. 18 were ahead of schedule and just about finished.

On December 19 a terrible tempest - a driving rainstorm hit the area and lasted for two days. On the 21st, the pastor went over to the church. His heart sunk when he saw that the roof had leaked, causing a large area of plaster about 6 feet by 8 feet to fall off the front wall of the sanctuary just behind the pulpit, beginning about head high. The pastor cleaned up the mess on the floor, and not knowing what else to do but postpone the Christmas Eve service, headed home.

On the way he noticed that a local business was having a flea market type sale for charity so he stopped in. One of the items was a beautiful, hand-made, ivory colored, crochet tablecloth with exquisite work, fine colors and a Cross-embroidered right in the center. It was just the right size to cover up the hole in the front wall. He bought it and headed back to the church.

By this time it had started to snow. An older woman running from the opposite direction was trying to catch the bus. She missed it. The pastor invited her to wait in the warm church for the next bus 45 minutes later. She sat in a pew and paid no attention to the pastor while he got a ladder, hangers, etc. to put up the tablecloth as a wall tapestry. The pastor could hardly believe how beautiful it looked and it covered up the entire problem area. Then he noticed the woman walking down the center aisle. Her face was like a sheet.

"Pastor," she asked, "Where did you get that tablecloth?" The pastor explained. The woman asked him to check the lower right corner to see if the initials, EBG were crochet into it there. They were. These were the initials of the woman, and she had made this tablecloth 35 years before, in Austria. The woman could hardly believe it as the pastor told how he had just gotten the tablecloth. The woman explained that before the war she and here husband were well-to-do people in Austria. When the Nazis came, she was forced to leave. Her husband was going to follow her the next week. She was captured, sent to prison and never saw her husband or her home again.

The pastor wanted to give her the tablecloth; but she made the pastor keep it for the church. The pastor insisted on driving her home. That was the least he could do. She lived on the other side of Staten Island and was only in Brooklyn for the day for a housecleaning job.

What a wonderful service they had on Christmas Eve. The church was almost full. The music and the spirit were great. At the end of the service, the pastor and his wife greeted everyone at the door and many said that they would return. One older man, whom the pastor recognized from the neighborhood, continued to sit in one of the pews and stare, and the pastor wondered why he was not leaving.

The man asked him where he got the tablecloth on the front wall because it was identical to one that his wife had made years ago when they lived in Austria before the war and how could there be two tablecloths so much alike? He told the pastor how the Nazis came, how he forced his wife to flee for here safety, and he was supposed to follow her, but he was arrested and put in a concentration camp. He never saw his wife or his home again for all the 35 years in between.

The pastor asked him if he would allow him to take him for a little ride. They drove to Staten Island and to the same house where the pastor had taken the woman three days earlier. He helped the man climb the three flights of stairs to the woman's apartment, knocked on the door and the pastor saw the greatest Christmas reunion he could ever imagine.

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Men and women: just friends-Is it possible?

Men and women: just friends?

Is it possible? Have you got just a friend of the opposite sex? And even if you haven't had such experience…why?...Let's think about it: "Is it possible for men and women to be just friends without being romantic?"

There have been reviewed dozens of scientific studies and surveyed numbers of people about cross-gender friendships to discover whether these relationships can work or not. Also there have been studies listened in on countless discussions with men and women on the issue. Well…there are both sides of the argument.
For many people the idea of a man and a woman being friends is charming, but improbable. "It always leads to something else…" they argue, meaning that the relationship eventually becomes romantic. It is very difficult for a man and woman to have a platonic friendship…normally emotions get in the way and friendship can be ruined by one of the parties starting to get either possessive or jealous…Will your libido silence while spending pleasant time and having fun and sharing interests and activities, attitudes and values with just a friend of the opposite SEX?...Perhaps NO…After all, in contrast to the countless love stories we come across in the movies, books or reality, male-female friendship are rarely acclaimed or depicted as an ongoing, freestanding bond. How many stories can you think of that richly portray or endorse the lasting, devoted friendship of a man and a woman as an end in itself? Even the acclaimed film When Harry Met Sally, which got a lot of people talking about cross-gender friendships, ultimately proves to be another tale of romantic love. Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan's tumultuous and endearing friendship is only a stage in the development of the more celebrated attachment of falling in love…

And the other problem of course is the partners of the man and woman who are just friends…they may not feel happy with the situation especially if the man and woman who are just friends spend a lot of time together or go out together…What is your partner opinion on the issue?...???...Keep on reading together…probably it changes?...
On the other hand, there are those who are seemingly surprised by the question and argue that of course male-female friendships are possible: why wouldn't they be? These people's persuasiveness almost makes the romantic pull of such relationships seem unusual. They ignore it altogether. "One of my best friends is a woman," the male proponent of this perspective insists. "And it's never crossed my mind to consider her in a romantic way." Well, that takes care of that, I think. "My friendships with men are far less complex than my relationships with women," a female with this position might say. "We can play sports and just have fun."

In the informal survey of people who are "just friends" with someone of the opposite sex, it was heard a number of positive remarks. Over and over, men spoke about how a woman's friendship provided them with a kind of nurture not generally available in their relationships with men. They said things like, "I don't have to play the macho game with women. I can show my weaknesses to a woman friend and she'll still accept me." Women asked about their friendships with men commented their just a friend like "He is a good sounding board for getting the male perspective, the kind I can't get from my women friends."
Interestingly, women do not report the same level of intimacy as men do with their cross-gender friendships. Even women who count men among their close friends feel barriers between them. Women say things like, "I have fun with men who are just friends, and they can even be supportive and helpful about some things, but it's not the same. If I try to talk to my male friends the same way I talk to my female friends, I'm always disappointed." At first glance the payoff for men seems to be bigger than the payoff for women in cross-gender friendships. But that's not necessarily true. Women report great enjoyment from the diversity their friendships with men bring to their lives.
So does all this mean the answer to the question about men and woman being just friends is YES???
Few relationships issues are that plain and simple. The real answer is "it depends." So, you say, let's cut to the chase and get to the bottom line: What do these relationships depend upon? They depend upon how much each person in the relationship is willing to stretch and grow. These friendships, you see, require both men and women to call upon parts of themselves that are usually less accessible when relating to their typical same-sex friends. For a man, a woman who is just a friend allows him to express his more emotional side, to experience his vulnerability, to treat himself and his friend more tenderly than is permissible with male friends. What is typically missing for him in this cross-gender relationship, however, is the kind of rough camaraderie he can have with another man. For a woman, a man who is just a friend helps her express her independent, more reasoned and tougher side - the harder edge that's kept under wraps in relationships with women. The down side for her is the relative absence of emotional reciprocity and intensity she normally shares with a female friend.
So, okay, twist our arms for a NO or YES answer to this question and the answer will be YES. But we will quickly qualify it. Men and women can enjoy friendship together, but not at the same level they do with friends of the same sex.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Seven reasons why men are dumped by women on a date

There was an interesting post introducing seven reasons why men are dumped by women on a date and giving tips on how you as a man should prevent this disaster. Don’t trust this 100 percent. It won’t always be right.

Има една интересна статија за седумте причини поради кои мажот е одбиен од жена на состанок и понудени се неколку совети вие, како маж, да се спасите од ваква катастрофа. Не верувајте во ова 100%-но. Не мора да значи дека е точно во секоја ситуација.

A man who does some special event or gives a gift on the first meeting.

It sounds good. There are no women who will hate some special events for themselves. However, you should do these kinds of events in appropriate time and places. You should not overuse them. You should have events on decisive and important moments. Then the women can be impressed. If you do the event on the first meeting even though you don’t know what the woman will think about you, you are wasting your time. It will make women uncomfortable. Those women might mock you. When you meet a woman first, don’t do this kind of activity. Don’t even prepare gifts.

Маж кој прави посебна пригода или подарува скап подарок на првата средба.
Звучи добро. Сигурно на ниту една жена не би и пречело да се приреди специјална пригода во нејзина чест. Како и да е, ваков тип на настани треба да ги изведувате во одредено време и на одредени места. Не треба да претерувате со нив. Вакви настани треба да приредувате во одлучувачки и важни моменти. Тогаш би ја импресионирале девојката. Ако го сторите тоа на првата средба, иако не знаете што ќе помисли девојката за вас, вие само си го трошите времето. Само ќе направите на девојката да и биде неудобно. Тие девојки би ве исмеале. Кога имате прв состанок со некоја девојка, не го правете ова. Дури не подготвувајте подароци.

Wandering around for nice scenes and foods when you have a date.

Men sometimes prepare too much. They check where good scenes or food are. But the thing is those men also try those places first. You don’t know the direction well either. You might be confused finding those places. If you move around here and there, a woman might be tired and later she might think that anywhere is fine for her. Even though you know humble places, you’d better take her to your familiar places and so she will not feel tired. That’s consideration.

Лутање наоколу да пронајдете убаво место и вкусна храна за состанок
Некогаш мажите претеруваат со подготовки. Ги проверуваат најдобрите места и храна. Но често пати, овие мажи и самите за прв пат ги посетуваат тие места. Исто така не знаете точно каде се наоѓаат. Може да се збуните барајќи го тоа место. Лутањето насекаде може да ја умори девојката и на крај може да и одговара било кое место. Иако знаете скромни места, подобро е да ја однесете на некое место што го познавате и така таа не би се уморила. Земете го тоа во предвид.

You’re pretty. You’re pretty. Praise on and on.

There are no women who don’t like to hear that they are pretty. But you shouldn’t do so often and, before you comment, you should check whether it is an appropriate moment or not. As soon as you meet the woman, you start blurting out that she is so beautiful and why she hasn’t had a boy friend with such a pretty face. The woman can think that you’re boring and cheesy. Don’t express your feeling too much. You should wait a little bit. It’s not going to be fun if you let her know right away that you have a crush on her.

Убава си. Убава си. Постојано пофалби.
Сигурно нема ниту една жена која не би сакала да чуе комплимент дека е убава. Но не треба да претерувате со тоа и пред да искоментирате нешто, треба да проверите дали тоа е погоден момент или не. Штом ја запознаете девојката, почнувате да и кажувате колку е убава и да ја прашувате како е можно таква девојка со толку убав лик да нема момче. Девојката би помислила дека сте здодевен и вулгарен. Не ги изразувајте вашите чувства премногу. Треба да причекате. Нема да биде интересно ако веднаш и признаете дека ви се допаѓа.

Please don’t do magic.

It is not worth it. If you’re not David Copperfild, what you can do is just card magic. The woman can appreciate your efforts, but she will not get interest to you due to that. She might say it’s funny and you’re good. But possibly it would be lip-service. Please don’t do magic.

Подобро е да не се трудите да изведувате магични трикови.
Не вреди. Ако не сте Дејвид Коперфилд, она што единствено можете да го направите е трик со карти. Девојката би го ценела вашиот труд, но нема тоа да ја направи заинтересирана за вас. Можеби ќе ви рече дека е смешно и дека сте добар. Најверојатно тоа би била неискрена пофалба. Подобро е да не се трудите да изведувате магични трикови.

Rather than ‘Shall we move to another place,’ ‘Let’s move to another place.’

Even though she looks so fashionable, what she likes to eat might be not that fancy style. But maybe first time she might not choose humble foods due to the nervousness. If you ask ‘What would you like to eat?” She would answer, ‘anything is fine.’ Rather than asking this kind of question, why don’t you say ‘I know a good place. Do you want to try?’ When you move to another place, you’d better also say ‘Let’s move to another place’ rather than ‘Shall we move to another place?” This is a conversational tactic through which men can lead women.

Подобро е да кажете „Ајде да одиме на друго место“ отколку „Сакаш да одиме на друго место“
Иако изгледа девојката тренди, не мора да значи дека сака да јаде храна на места со префинет стил. Можеби првиот пат нема да одбере евтина храна поради нејзината трема. Ако ја прашате „Што би сакала да јадеш?“ таа најверојатно би ви одговорила „Ми одговара било што“. Наместо да и поставувате вакви прашања, зошто не и речете „Знам едно убаво место, дали би сакала да го посетиме?“ Кога треба да одите на друго место подобро е да кажете „Ајде да одиме на друго место“ отколку „Сакаш да одиме на друго место“. Ова се разговорни тактики со кои би можеле да водите една девојка.

Show your knowledge.

If you would like to give good impressions to women, you are able to talk about what women are interested and what the women do together. As you know, there are so many kinds of jobs in this world and women’s jobs are more various than men. What women like are more various too. If you know anything, it will help conversations. With that, you can lead various kinds of topics for conversation. The best thing is if you know what the other side is interested, the conversation can’t be boring. You should make efforts to maintain many knowledges, therefore.

Истакни го твоето знаење.
Ако сакате да оставите добар впечаток кај една жена, треба да умеете да разговарате за било која тема интересна за неа или пак за она што го прават жените заедно. Како што знаете, во светот постојат многу работни места и работните места на жените се поразновидни отколку на мажите. Исто така и нештата што ги сака жената се разновидни. Ако сте упатен во некои работи, ќе биде многу полезно за вашиот разговор. Најдобро е да знаете за што е заинтересирана другата страна, па така разговорот не би бил здодевен. Треба да вложите напор во проширувањето на вашите познавања.

You should have at least a hobby.

Even though daily life goes around like a gear and the world is tough and boring, relations between men and women are very different. The man who doesn’t have a hobby is like a barren land that can ‘t have any single plant. If you don’t have a hobby, of course you would not be interested in other people’s hobbies. You can have interesting conversations about hobbies, but you even don’t feel the necessity of having a hobby and don’t understand other’s hobby. Make your own hobby. And it is necessary to hear about the other’s hobby.

Барем имајте хоби
Знаејќи дека животот тече брзо и светот е тежок и здодевен, врските помеѓу мажите и жените се многу разновидни. Маж кој нема хоби е како неплодна земја на која не може да успее ниту едно растение. Ако немате хоби, сигурно нема да ве интересира хобито на некој друг. Можете да водите разговори поврзани за некое хоби, а да немате потреба да имате хоби или да разберете нечие хоби. Создадете свое хоби. И исто така е важно да имате слух и за нечие хоби.

Marriage Quotations

A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendships, all the enjoyment of sense and reason - and indeed all the sweets of life. - Joseph Addison
"A happy man marries the girl he loves; a happier man loves the girl he
marries." - anonymous quote
"I am a good friend to my husband. I have tried to make my marriage vows mean what they say. I show up. I listen. I try to laugh." - Anna Quindlen, A Short Guide to a Happy Life
"Men marry what they need. I marry you." - John Ciardi
"Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner." - Amy Bloom
"Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat." - Joanne Woodward
"For I've been born and I've been wed. All of man's peril comes of bed." - C.H. Webb, Dum Vivimus Vigilemus
"You don't need to be on the save wavelength to succeed in marriage. You just need to be able to ride each other's waves." - Toni Sciarra Poynter, From This Day Forward: Meditations on the First Years of Marriage
"I love being married. It's so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life." - Rita Rudner
"Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy, you must have somebody to divide it with." - Mark Twain
"We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness." - Ellen Goodman
"A woman might as well propose: her husband will claim she did." - Edgar Watson Howe
"It is not from reason and prudence that people marry, but from inclination." - Samuel Johnson
"No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying." - unknown quote
"We don't love qualities, we love persons; sometimes by reason of their defects as well as of their qualities." - Jacques Maritain
"I should like to see any kind of a man, distinguishable from a gorilla, that some good and even pretty woman could not shape a husband out of." - Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
"Marriage is one of the few institutions that allow a man to do as his wife pleases." - Milton Berle
"I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewelry." - Rita Rudner
"I feel like Zsa Zsa Gabor's eighth husband on her wedding night: I know what I'm supposed to do...I just have to figure out a way to make it interesting." - many attributions for this quote
"Marriage has many pains, but celibacy has no pleasures." - Samuel Johnson
"An old man who marries a young wife grows younger - but she grows older." - folk saying
“You never marry the person you first see ‘Casablanca’ with.” — Kinky Friedman
"It is not uncommon for slight acquaintances to get married, but a couple really have to know each other to get divorced." - anonymous quote
"Every marriage tends to consist of an aristocrat and a peasant." - John Updike
"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe
"The people people have for friends
Your common sense appall
But the people people marry
Are the queerest folk of all."
- Charlotte Perkins Gilman
"Do not marry a man to reform him. That is what reform schools are for." - Mae West
"A happy home is one in which each spouse grants the possibility that the other may be right, though neither believes it." - Don Fraser
"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, and always with the same person." - Mignon McLaughlin
"Marriage is a fine institution - but I'm not ready for an institution." - Mae West
"Oh, how we danced on the night we were wed
We vowed our true love though a word wasn't said
The world was in bloom, there were stars in the skies
Except for the few that were there in your eyes.
The night seemed to fade into blossoming dawn
The sun shone anew but the dance lingered on
Could we but relive that sweet moment sublime
We'd find that our love is unaltered by time."
- lyrics to "The Anniversary Waltz," composed by Dubin/Frankl

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

On First Love

"First romance, first love, is something so special to all of us, both emotionally and physically, that it touches our lives and enriches them forever." - Rosemary Rogers
"First love is a little foolish and a lot of curiosity."- George Bernard Shaw
"The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can never end." - Benjamin Disraeli
"We never forget those who make us blush." - Jean-François De La Harpe
"Young love is from the earth, and late love is from heaven." - Turkish Proverb
"First love is dangerous only when it is also the last." - Branislav Nusic
"Sex is something I really don't understand too hot. You never know where the hell you are. I keep making up these sex rules for myself, and then I break them right away." - Holden Caulfield, The Catcher in the Rye, by J.D. Salinger


"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes
"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly." - Sam Keen
"You may only be one person to the world, but you may also be the world to one person." - anonymous quote
"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." - Lao Tzu
"There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." – Nietzsche
"You don't love a woman because she's beautiful; she is beautiful because you love her." - anonymous quote
"It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death." - Thomas Mann
"When the one man loves the one woman and the one woman loves the one man, the very angels desert heaven and come and sit in the house and sing for joy." - Brahma Sutra
"A fool in love makes no sense to me.
I only think you are a fool
If you do not love."
- anonymous quote
"The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention." - Richard Warren
"If you would be loved, love and be lovable." - Benjamin Franklin, "Poor Richard's Almanac," 1755
"A loving heart is the truest wisdom." - Charles Dickens
"True love cannot be found where it truly does not exist,
Nor can it be hidden where it truly does."
- anonymous quote
"A happy man marries the girl he loves; a happier man loves the girl he marries." - anonymous quote
"Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along." – Rumi
"Age does not protect you from love but love to some extent love protects you from age." - Jeanne Moreau
"It is not so much what is on the table that matters, as what is on the chairs." - W.S. Gilbert
"It is not so much what is on the table that matters, as what is on the chairs." - W.S. Gilbert
"Even a very small degree of hope is enough to cause the birth of love." - Stendhal
"The most wasted day is that in which we have not laughed." - Chamfort
"Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that's a real treat." - Joanne Woodward
"An old man who marries a young wife grows younger - but she grows older." - folk saying
"Forgiveness is the final form of love." - Reinhold Niebuhr
"My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it is on your plate." - Thornton Wilder
"We never know we are beings till we love. And then it is we know the powers and potentialities of human existence." - Jean Toomer
"Whoso loves believes the impossible." - Elizabeth Barrett Browning
"You have to be very fond of men. Very, very fond. You have to be very fond of them to love them. Otherwise they're simply unbearable." - Marguerite Duras
"Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker
"I am in love - and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life." - D. H. Lawrence
"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe
"The question of love is one that cannot be evaded. Whether or not you claim to be interested in it, from the moment you are alive you are bound to be concerned with love, because love is not just something that happens to you: It is a certain special way of being alive. Love is, in fact, an intensification of life, a completeness, a fullness, a wholeness of life." - Thomas Merton
"I have loved to the point of madness / That which is called madness / That which to me / Is the only sensible way to love." - Francoise Sagan
"We learn only from those we love." - Johann Von Eckermann
"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." - Erich Fromm
"The three hardest tasks in the world are neither physical feats nor intellectual achievements, but moral acts: 1) To return love for hate; 2) To include the excluded; and 3) To say 'I was wrong.'" - Ernst Heinrich Haeckel
"What will survive of us is love." - Philip Larkin
Love Messages